Everything is Okay, Okay?

     One thing that I don't like is when others feel sorry for me. I get that people get sad for me when things don't go my way, but I don't need anyone looking down on me. When you're in a tough spot, people tend to drag themselves down to your level and attempt to sympathize with you instead of bringing up you. Think about it: it's easier to feel sorry for someone rather than helping them out. It's simple as that.

     Life is tough sometimes. Not everyone has a loving family, is rich, or is popular. Especially as teenagers, there are somethings in life we don't have any control over. And that's why I can't wait till I'm an adult. But that's the whole point of it; learning to live with what you already have. So there isn't any need to tell a person how depressing it must be to have divorced parents, or no friends. Yes it's unfortunate, but saying that creates a sense of inferiority for the person listening. If you tell someone how sorry you are for them, it's portrayed like you're better. Or it makes it seem like they're missing out just for the sake of missing out. When in fact they can't do anything about it. And although that may not be your intention, that's how it goes.

     I can say that my life isn't that easy. And it's the same with everyone else. But that's my life. I can put up with the situations I am living with. It's a numb feeling because I deal with them all the time. I don't even realize what others consider "burdens" are actually burdens. Or "misfortunes," misfortunes. But when someone brings up how sad it is that I don't have this or that, it just makes me angry. And it also creates self pity that was never there in the first place. I'm sorry I don't have what you have. Except I'm okay with that. But not everyone understands. I think that sometimes people fail to realize it's not disastrous not having perfect families or a huge house. It's just how life is meant to happen. There's no negativity for the absence of things until someone makes it seem so. 

     Everyone wants to help a person out who's unlucky, or is going through a tough time. But not everyone needs it. Although I can really understand why people say they feel sorry. I mean if they don't, they feel helpless. And I even say that sometimes too. Except when those things are said, it's realized how we don't have everything good and sweet in the world. And that's what angers us the most.

    Sometimes we fail to realize that a listening ear is all that's needed for comfort.